Accept your partner for who they are. Where you once expected agreement and compliance from your partner, youâll do better and feel better to practice love and acceptance. Here are some tips for becoming more accepting. Accept that just because they don't behave like you, it doesn't make them wrong. When you start to get frustrated with your spouse check in with your thoughts. You Have To Accept Your Partner's Flaws In A Relationship. Jan. 29, 2017. Essentially, accepting your partner for who and what they are is a choice that frees you both to enjoy each other fully and feel good about yourselves. You didnât marry a clone of yourself! You serve your spouse by how you accept your spouse at every ⦠To accept their idiosyncrasies as a part of their, and your, life. Indeed, research shows that nearly 70% of marital conflicts are perpetual and unresolvable â they last a coupleâs whole life through. What you see is what you get, nothing more, nothing less. And so, the #1 thing spouses can do to build healthy, lasting marriage, is to love and accept your spouse the way they are. Accept the things you cannot change. Acceptance is another facet of serving love. They may also be able to help you to learn to manage the feelings you may have about your partnerâs behaviors. I know that this is a revolutionary idea, but within this suggestion lays the seeds of peace and harmony. In whatever ways you and your spouse change with age, one thing about you should never change: that you accept your spouse just as they are. ... One of the girls has been dating a guy for a while, but now all they ever do is fight. Accepting others for who they are, and not for who you would like them to be, is an important step in forging healthy relationships full of mutual respect and realistic expectations. 1. Here are seven steps to acceptance: 1. Do not choose only one part, take me as I am, whole and such as I am, so you donât make any mistakes. Accept that your partner is not perfect. Well, no. Let me add a disclaimer: Throughout the remainder of this article, I am not talking about accepting abusive, dangerous behavior. Or if your spouse stays at home do you feel you accept the fact your spouse might not like or be the best house keeper or cook? For instance, if you've learned throughout the years that your partner has a habit of being late, accept it. And it can help you accept yourself for who you are at the same time. By Sandra Rose. A professional may be able to help you learn how to accept a situation. You are the very last person who is going to change your husband or wife. I had to love him flaws and all, the same way he loved me. Reevaluate the seriousness of your partner's flaws. If you are having difficulty accepting your partner for who they, consider consulting with a therapist. Wanting your spouse to change is like asking a cat to bark. Accept your partner for who they are! Accept their flaws. 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